ATTENTION! ALL WHO KNOW DEMOLITION WOMAN.

Fuck.
Suicide is wrong.
The holes it tears in the lives you leave behind take years to heal and never really close completely. There is always that void. That absence.
Having lost a best friend, I can't imagine losing a best friend, lover and life companion soulmate.

+++++ vibes to Shmoesmith and all survivors.
It will take a long time to learn to live with this.
You will be angry.
You will be sad.
Someday you will come to terms with it. It will never make sense, but it will just be something that is, that cannot be changed.
Suicide comes in a moment of weakness, however brief, and "if this, and if that", then things may have been different.
Unfortunately what has happend is what is.
The new reality, no matter how fucked up.
I partialy understand your pain, your dark hour in which you exist, but only partially.

Hang in there. Be strong but also allow yourself to be weak to rest and remember the good she brought to you.

If she could take it back, after seeing the pain and anguish left behind, she would.
She never intended to hurt you this way. She was only focusing on her own pain, and it was only for a weak moment that she faltered.

Hang in there.
Someday life will be beautiful again.
Life and the world and powder is a miracle.

Peace ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ +++

My girlfriend went through the same thing many years ago with her fiancee, and I finally told her about this last night. She immediately got quiet, and I could tell that it was affecting her- and she doesn't know you, nor most anyone on this board. I can't even imagine what you're going through, nor do I ever want to know... but please know that this community is so much more than anyone realizes, and use the people on this board to be your every resource. The Maggots are there for you Doug.

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Sorry for your loss and may God comfort you and your loved ones during these difficult hours.

Her spirit is making powder turns with Ullr as we speak; DW, enjoy eternal bliss.

My deepest condolence to you. I pray that your wife rests in peace.

It will be hard, but it is time for you to be emotionally strong. Think rationally; reflect on the past, then think about your future. You have some tough choices to make, ...be smart and make them with a clear head.

I don't know you, I didn't know her....

but I lost a very, VERY close girlfriend to the same senseless tragedy over two years ago...I know what it feels like, and I can only say that if you need to talk to a fellow Maggot who has been through this, even though I have never met you, then I am going to offer that to you...

PM me if you need anything...

I will think of you and her...

good luck

Unbelievable depths of sadness that I can't even imagine.

My thoughts and ++++ vibes are with you. You have lot of support here. Hang in there.

Like some others here, I hardly ever post, but I read the forums almost daily. Therefore, I feel like I'm part of the family and that I sort of know a lot of the people who hang out here. So it was with great sorrow that I learned about your loss. You have my heartfelt sympathy, and my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

Wow, just read this. So unbelievably sad.

Deepest condolences to Doug, and everyone who knew and loved DW.

Smoesmith-
I don't know you two, but your TRs from up north were great. I can't imagine what I'd feel like if I were in your shoes, but this killer community is a great place to find people willing to help.

Keep on keepin' on!

I just want to send my and my wifes prayers and love to you.

Tonight she hoists a flagon and feasts on eternal boar in Valhalla. My thoughts are with ya.

Greetings TGR,

I would like to think that Brit thought of me as a friend. I am not a powderhound, but I have been lurking on this site because of the strong response to Brit. This community has been so wonderful that it makes me want to meet many of you. I suppose I will at the funeral.

To give some context, I am Tigerstripe/James' girlfriend, and was Doug and Brit's neighbor for a while.

I have so much to say, but I am still gathering my broken thoughts. I know I'll post more later.

I'm so kicking myself right now for not having better archiving skills.

Psyche

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Greetings TGR,

I would like to think that Brit thought of me as a friend. I am not a powderhound, but I have been lurking on this site because of the strong response to Brit. This community has been so wonderful that it makes me want to meet many of you. I suppose I will at the funeral.

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welcome to the community... I think you already know what we're really about - snow or not, we're a group bound by friendship and many shared interests, and always pull together to help each other when needed - especially in a time like this, enjoy the outdoors and just have fun with good people.

The utah crew in particular is a good one - so I hope we do get to meet you sometime, but under better circumstances.

Meanwhile, I'm sure brit is smiling on you as a friend...after all, you're there for D. right now.

i've been at a total loss for words. Serious condolences and skiing is the best therapist imho. RIP.

I just read this, and am sitting here shocked. I often wondered if DW was someone I or friends of mine went caving with when in Ut.

If there is anything I can do, lend an ear, give a place to stay if you need to get away, I'd be glad to, and clearly so is this community. Save your strength, use ours when you need it.

Vibes to you man.

Oh my goodness.....as tears roll down my face I can hardly type. My heart just sank and I feel your loss Doug. As you spend time on here and share pictures and experiences, you feel the tight community and feel like you have friends afar. I do not get to check TGR as often as I like so this heartfelt message is a little late but I send my condolences to you, friends and her loving family.

I'm at a loss for words. You and all those affected are in my thoughts. Be strong.

God bless

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Moment of silence for DW. Rest in peace in that endless powder stash in the sky. I've heard it's all 2% water content up there, and every day is a two-food bluebird.

Positive vibes, shmoe. I don't know you, but get through this - the community can't afford to lose two people who are cared for so much.

May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind always be at your back.

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So sorry for your loss.

Remember her at her best.

Long time lurker, occasional poster (under a different alias), here.

I would like to echo what Monique wrote earlier. I'd bet dollars to donuts that having your support on her side made a world of difference to your wife. It sounds like you were instrumental in showing her the beauty in the world: backcountry exploring, a loving partner, a home, stability, even a puppydog. You did good.

She did good, too. I've enjoyed her posts here. What a woman.

Sounds to me like you both did your best.

Please be gentle with yourself. As others have said, don't sweat the fiscal stuff right now. House, car, etc., can wait. Making sense of what happened can wait. Just take extra good care of yourself now, even if it makes no sense to do so.

And I'd like to echo WhiteLight: I hope the small measure of financial support from this collective will at least buy you a little time not to make any big decisions like selling your home when you're not in shape to be weighing the options. Your mind and heart are preoccupied with much more important things right now. We are thinking about you and standing beside you every minute.

Brit was a fine person and I'd love to honor her memory. She was a fine person.

RIP Brit, all the universe's love, compassion, grace, and peace to you and Doug.

Good times with the three of us last summer at the Bird: :)

http://www.biglines.com/photosv2/200...ines_62023.jpg

Hang in there schmoe

I'm so sorry

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So, so sorry to hear this.

Huge condolences for your loss :(

I am so sorry for you and right now I've stopped everything to pray for your lovely wife. She must have been really sad to leave. I'm so sorry and speechless.

Doug, I just want to let you know that you are not alone. I have not been able to stop thinking about you and your wife since reading this days ago. Even though we have never met I am so saddened for you. I know many others feel the same way, 27,000 people have read this, people care so much. I will be unable to attend the services on Monday, but I want you to know I will be thinking deeply of you and Britney and so will many, many others. If you ever want to come up to Snowbasin I will gladly buy you a lift ticket anytime just PM me. If you would like to vent to a stranger, perhaps there are things you are unable to say to family and friends, I could lend you a sympathetic ear on the lift ride. I just wanted to let you know that many people are thinking of you and Britney. I caught two sweet airs while thinking of her yesterday and I think she dug it. Sent with peace and love.

Smoesmith, I just got on the forum today... it's been a little over a week since i have posted anything. To come to the forum and read this ... I must say is a little overwhelming for me. I'm so sorry for your loss!

I will never forget the day you and your wife took the time out of your christmas eve to bring gifts to a complete stranger... To go out of your way and do what you did for someone that you did not know takes a huge heart! May we all be more like you! Your in our prayers!

bump for her
and for another og mag whose handle i cant recall right now
and wishes for the help that's here, within this small community and other places out there in a larger community

Yeah buddy

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