Management advice

[systemoverblow'd]

I'm pretty new to management and have a dilemma that someone here has had to deal with in the past and seeking advice.

We hired this young guy fresh out of college a while ago. He is my direct report. He has a long time girlfriend that he never shuts up about. She also recently went off to grad school but they are keeping the relationship going long distance (stupid, but who am I to judge).
Recently he has been spending an awful lot of time with another young chica here. And their relationship is glaringly obvious to pretty much everyone.

Now normally I would keep my trap shut and mind my business but he is giving himself a bad rep around the office. Which sucks because he his a great worker and nice guy minus the infidelity.
I see myself as able to not only manage this kid but mentor him. He's young and makes mistakes like we all do. He respects me and I feel I should kind of push him in the right direction. Hell, I fucked up so many times I can explain why his stupid shenanigans will likely blow up in his face.

I want to tell him
#1: he is being looked at like kind of an asshole to his peers. We are full of millennials and the majority are female. They know what's going on.
#2: he should probably avoid work relationships on the whole as they usually cause problems.

Should I mind my business? Or is this exactly the type of situation a good manager jumps in to?

Thanks.

[::: :::]

take him aside at the slumber party and tell him then

[systemoverblow'd]

I'll be too drunk then

[adrenalated]

Bang his new chica. Problem solved.

[systemoverblow'd]

She's gross.

[Gcooker]

Fire her, sounds like you got too many woman ruining the misogynistic work environment us men crave.

[Bobcat Sig]

Bang his new chica. Problem solved.

This. Or just pull him aside and help understand the perception he's creating for himself in a mentor-mentee way. Pretty easy.

[skiballs]

I see myself as able to not only manage this kid but mentor him.

Why don't you just shoot him in the head now and save him the agony.

[DJSapp]

This. Or just pull him aside and help understand the perception he's creating for himself in a mentor-mentee way. Pretty easy.

That's a bit tougher when he's a direct report. I'd talk to him about #1, and only mention that #2 better not interfere with his and her work responsibilities, and in your personal experience of being a fuck up, it usually does.

[Cono Este]

You're too new to management to start making stupid decisions for yourself, call in HR.

[butterscotch]

Does your company have a policy on office relationships?

Might be best to have a chat with him in a more casual setting, go out to lunch or grab a beer. You could probably say a version of what you already posted: "You're personal life isn't really any of my business, but I like your work and want you to be successful here. Blah, blah, blah. Etc, etc."

[flatlander#2]

Agency life so I'm guessing you happy hour on a Friday afternoon? I barely worked Friday's but it was the booze industry. After he's had a couple in a loose environ and probably thinking about sneaking away with her for a quickie, thinking everyone just thinks we're great friends call him aside and say hey man I know you like the banging but personally, cut one loose first because EVERYONE knows. Or maybe he doesn't give a crap. Some of it really isn't yours to judge.

And this is agency life. Cripes the side banging at some of the firms I've worked at.

[Hugh Conway]

it's his own fucking business, stay the fuck out of it.

[PNWbrit]

Fire her, sounds like you got too many woman ruining the misogynistic work environment us men crave.

Ahhh . ANother graduate of the 4matic school of management

[systemoverblow'd]

it's his own fucking business, stay the fuck out of it.

So you would never give real advice to someone you considered a friend? Awesome guy bro!

I never planned on getting him in trouble or reprimanding him or anything, just a little nudge "dude, you're kind of coming off as an asshole. Just an FYI." Hell, people tell me all that all the time here, it doesn't mean I listen to them.

He's not breaking any official work policies. But when one of our SVP's that sits next to us brought it up with me (he asked if I noticed)... maybe it's time to say something.